7 Ideas to Enhance Your Leadership in 2021

by Kimberly on January 6, 2014

7 Ideas to Enhance Your Leadership in 2014We all know the power of leadership. Let alone through the media, we’ve witnessed that power in our own personal lives and careers, through the people we’ve encountered, or for some of us, through our very own actions. This post is for those who desire or who feel called to that great, delicate art of leadership. Here are seven ideas to help you lead and succeed in 2014.

  1. Listen to and consider others’ ideas and perspectives, even if they differ from yours. Especially when they differ. Not only do leaders stand to gain insight and learn something new, but also they demonstrate respect. Mutual respect goes a long way toward accomplishing a vision.
  2. The active listening skill is important not only in formal leadership at work. Your life is not limited only to your job and communication with your colleagues, right? This skill is valuable for having a successful personal life, warm relationships with family and friends. Therefore, we advise you to develop your listening and perception skills daily in all spheres of life.
  3. If you are currently searching for a partner, you can use dating sites that offer video and voice communication tools. Thus, you will have even more chances to listen actively to your potential girlfriend: you will see the way she moves while talking, the changes of the emotions on her face, and the tone of her voice, etc. These things will help you to understand the core meaning of her words and whether she is sincere with you. Mail order brides will have a chance to understand you better as well since your look on the screen will tell them how you feel about them.
  4. If you don't want to find a bride now but improve your relationships with your friends, listening skills will be of great help too. What you need to do is to start paying attention to the body language of your friends, their non-verbal signs of agreement or disagreement with your opinion, etc. Also, to become an active listener, you need to refrain from rushing to comment on the things your friends say, but ask more questions about their perception of a certain issue, and let them speak out.
  5. The same approach can be applied to the meetings at work, talks with your parents, and one-to-one talks with your boss. If you take it into account, your leadership will enhance a lot: you will get promoted at work, get more acceptance from your parents, etc.
  6. Make a regular habit of showing your appreciation. For some, it might be helpful to carve out time weekly on the calendar to make a quick call, or write a short note of thanks.
  7. Leaders are not know-it-alls, though, unfortunately, we’ve all met some who have taken on this role. Determine to learn something new this year.
  8. Humble yourself before others. Admit you’re wrongdoings. Apologize for bad judgment. Acknowledge your lack of skills or knowledge. Besides, everyone knows about them anyway. And people love working alongside those who serve others with humility and grace.
  9. Allow your people to win and to shine. Leaders don’t hog the attention. They know that they don’t work for the company but for the people within the company. So shine the light on others. Give them the tools, resources, and praise they need to be winners.
  10. Engage and empower others. Utilize their strengths, talents, passions, and career goals to help them succeed in the workplace. Tap into their motivations and giftings, and you’ll tap into their potential.
  11. , even in the face of adversity. Often, it’s not whether something is “realistic” or not that a goal is accomplished. Sometimes, it’s through sheer vision, determination, perseverance, and attitude. No one wants to work with a negative, critical soul. But people warm up to a leader with spirit and optimism.

So how will you demonstrate leadership this year? What should I have added to the list? Put your comments in the box below. And please pass this post along if you found it helpful. Happy New Year!


How to Claim Freedom from Your Cell Phone

by Kimberly on April 9, 2013

Nobody wants to be in bondage.

And yet, that’s what we are—bound, no that’s putting it too mildly—shacked to our cell phones.

Many of the hard working professionals I coach come clean about cell phone slavery, wince when I mention that there’s a way out, and sheepishly confess they haven’t a clue how to get free.

We have unrealistic expectations of ourselves and others. Nobody can be at everyone’s beck and call. And yet we expect others to drop whatever they’re doing to attend to our call or text, and they expect the same from us, whether they’re our spouses, children, or colleagues.

Fine if you’re Superman or Superwoman.

But I’m betting you’re not.

So if you desire uninterrupted time to explore, think, create, innovate, dream, rest, and enjoy your loved ones, here are some simple strategies. I didn’t say easy, mind you. Simple. But if you’re determined to turn off so you can tune in to life, I’m confident you can discover what works for you.


  • Don’t get defensive. Take an honest, critical look at your phone usage. On a spreadsheet, log for one or two days how often you use your cell phone, or other technological gadget, and for what purposes. Even if you just take out your cell phone to glance at it, without actually “using it,” log it. I’m betting you’ll be surprised! Perhaps horrified. Oh, and did I mention honesty?
  • Phones and emails have been shown to light up the reward centers of our brains, so find other rewarding activities to replace technology, such as reading, working on a project, daydreaming, cooking, or conversing with other people.
  • Experiment with not using it. Try it for half a day, a whole day, or a weekend. I know I’m asking the impossible. But I promise, you will survive! You cannot understand what it’s costing you until you’ve ditched it. And I don’t mean forever. If it helps to think of it as an experiment, then call it that. Experiment and get an accurate sense of the benefits and consequences of intentionally ditching the phone.
  • Identify what your unique struggles are. For example, are you tempted by the chime, knowing that you’ve got a new email to check?
  • Come up with a plan. Set boundaries or rules for yourself. When and what kinds of calls will you accept? Which will you disregard until later? What hours will you keep the phone on? When will your phone be put away, so you’re not tempted to use it? What’s urgent/not urgent?
  • Respectfully share those boundaries with others. Let them know how to get a hold of you if there’s an emergency. One of my clients kindly let her new boss know the times she regularly checks her voicemails and emails. This way, she put a boundary in place, while at the same time assuring her boss that she will indeed do her job.
  • Ask for help from others, such as your spouse or kids. If I tell my kids to let me know when I’m one the phone or computer too much, they will do so, and gladly! They want their mommy time. Who can hold you accountable? And better question—are you willing to be held accountable?

I’ve love to hear from some of you how you’ve found freedom from your cell phone or other technology. Perhaps you’ll help one of our readers. Perhaps you’ll help me!

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13 More Easy Recognition Strategies for Home and Work

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In my last post, I listed 10 easy recognition strategies for leaders and colleagues in the workplace, and promised you some more. However, I thought it would be relevant and fun to list those that can be used at home as well. Here are great ideas to spread the love around. Appreciation and Recognition at […]

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Off the Wall Christmas Contest for Work

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Winston Churchill said it best: “We make a living by what we get. We make a life by what we give.” This brings to mind employee recognition, though the topic is certainly relevant to anyone you encounter. Here are 10 easy, no or low cost ways to recognize others and demonstrate your appreciation: Take her […]

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